I broke it off with this woman (friend zoned her and it was agreeable), who is too much work because she is so guarded--she was acting interested, was texting and wanting to hang out but then the interest, texts and wanting hang out dropped off--and now she is acting interested again. Do you think it's that old thing, People want what they can't have? My reply: I don't why a woman would do that. Or a man for that matter. I know it it is confusing if you're in a relationship or trying to be in a relationship with someone who is sending mixed signals. Whether it's intentional or not it is hard on the person who has been trying to do and say all the right things and then throws in the towel because he/she feels like his/her efforts are fruitless. The best thing is to tell the person you appreciate they're friendship and be patient. If my friend asks the woman what is going on she may feel like she is being confronted and most people don't like confrontation. But those people who are emotionally distant are an awful lot of work and the results of one's efforts could be better with someone who is not so guarded and emotionally available to being in a relationship. All relationships are work but when dealing with a person who is for lack of a clinical description emotionally disabled it is constant work that may be for nothing if the person isn't willing to work on being emotionally healthy in a relationship where there is give and take on both ends.
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