using a Christmas present

My mom sent me a pressure cooker for Christmas. I have no experience with them. I am trying butternut squash soup as the first dish.

Entertaining myself

I'm home sick so I have been entertaining myself. I watched Forks Over Knives which I highly recommend. And I am reading Pride Prejudice and Zombies. I downloaded it from Amazon. I just started it but it seems like it may be entertaining enough for a sick day. But Forks Over Knives is a must see even if you're not sick.

Question (updated)

Is it too much to want to be with your best friend and have physical chemistry? Marty says you can't have everything. That there is always something. 

Present

The Detroit is already starting with the texts...Marry Christmas. And then, I owe you a present. Of course, I texted, "no u don't" he says he wants to. The best thing about is not so much what it is as from whom it comes. Presents from a person you don't even know or to whom you have no connection are meaningless but presents from someone you love mean everything no matter how small, how big, how expensive or not...It's just wonderful that someone you love thought of you.

Dedee's laugh

When Dedee was asking me about the Detroit guy and what has transpired. I told her about him lying to me about his age. She said she thought men didn't usually lie about their age. I told her that it seems like it would make sense for someone to lie and say he's older than he is and then I might think WOW, this guy looks great for his age. She said she thinks age shouldn't matter if you really like the person. I told I don't have any interest in him because he seems arrogant. He keeps bringing up all the property he owns and how fortunate he's been. I told him just because some guy has money doesn't mean I am going to get any of it so that doesn't matter to me. And, prior to me meeting him for coffee he told me several time in telephone conversations that he thought I would be very pleased with his physical appearance when we met. That's when Dedee just started laughing the biggest richest laugh I have ever heard. Then I started laughing. She said, "Boy, that guy is really full of himself." I told that I have never had someone say that to me and I have never told anyone that Man or woman that I he or she would be pleased with me physically when we met. It's odd. I told Dedee maybe he is some kind of narcissist or something.

Marty and I had the same conversation but I added a few more details since Marty can still hear. My poor Dedee is 88 years old now and our conversations a strained at times due to her loss of hearing but overall we get on fine. I told Marty that the Detroit guy keeps telling me he is an A personality guy. And that I think I am supposed to be impressed but I am not quite sure what my response is supposed to be. Maybe I am supposed to say, "Great, that's the exact kind of man I want and I can't wait to blow you." The Detroit guy also starts sentences with, "To be candid with you..." which leads me to think he generally is not candid. Marty said I should say so and I told Marty that I did say so. I asked the Detroit guy why he frequently start sentences with that preface and he said it was so I would know he's being up front and honest. So I told him that there's no reason I would think he was being anything but honest except that he says, "To be candid with you..." because anytime someone starts a sentence with a phrase like, "To be honest with you...", "In all honesty...", "Honestly...", "Truthfully", etc. I think he/she is lying or has been caught in a lot of lies or has been accused of lying frequently or something because there is no reason to think someone is being anything but honest with me unless I have had an bad experience with the person due to some lie I was told by them or I caught the person in a lie or heard them lying someone. Marty said he agreed with me with regard to the guy saying, "To be candid with you...". Marty got a pretty big kick out of the guy saying I would be pleased with his physical appearance when we met since Marty thinks the guy looks 75 years old. Marty asked me what I said when the guy said I was going to be pleased and I told him I just said, "Me too." I didn't know what else to say. I was taken off guard since no one has ever said that me. Marty said he didn't know how would react if a woman said that to him because he's never had a woman say that to him. He thinks he would probably be at a loss for words. Marty said something about the A personality statements that was derogatory and finished with telling me to cut the guy loose. It's hard to tell someone on Christmas Eve or Christmas day that you're just not interested in any kind of relationship with him. Marty says I should say I met someone or I;m getting back with an ex (that would be difficult since I don't have one) or that I have decided to hook up with some other guy so as to avoid hurt feelings. I had hoped that he would simply lose interest in me since I have made it clear I don't want to have sex with him. He just says he's hoping I'll change my mind. Yikes. Sometimes, NO IS NO, not SHEnglish for TRY HARDER.

Dedee

My Aunt Dorothy, Dedee, laughed so much when we were catching up this evening. We had a great Christmas Eve catching up on the phone.

My mom's two cents

When I told my mom that Marty found out the Detroit guy has been lying about his age she said 66 is way too old for me and she doesn't even think I should go out with anyone older than me. Then Gil said the Detroit guy is way too old for me and that I should just hit it with Ron and cherish the moments, get it while you can. Then I said, "Did you say cherish? Boy, aren't we romantic." And we cracked up laughing.

Yahoo article

https://www.yahoo.com/style/if-your-guy-does-these-5-things-dont-marry-him-105446894973.html

First time

For the first time, I got a Christmas card from Nick's dad yesterday and then today, I received a Christmas present from him today. 

The sweetest thing

Marty took the kids who are at the shelter in Louisville gift cards. I think that was the sweetest thing.

Detroit guy

Marty didn't believe that the Detroit guy is 60 so he checked online and the Detroit guy is really 66 years old so he lied to me about his age.

Coworker

Harry asked me to come to his house for Christmas and eat lunch. I asked if any men would be there and he said yes so I told him, "No, thanks." He said that I seem to have changed my attitude about men and that all I need is to go to church and find a Christian man for a husband. 

Dinosaurs

Dinosaurs is on Netflix right now. I started watching it and it is so cute and very funny.  Nick used to watch it when he was around two years old. 

So glad

Finally got home from work about 45 minutes ago. What a long day. I brought work home with me so I won't have to go in Christmas Eve of Christmas, well, hopefully. 

BTW

After I got all hot and bothered thinking about a man vacuuming for me I had to go back to my own office to cool off.

My kind of porn

Today, I was telling June my kind of porn would be a man showing up at my apartment to vacuum. Right after I was telling her that I noticed my temperature rose, I told June, "Oh my gosh, I just got hot. I guess the thought of a guy vacuuming for me really is a turn on for me." We started laughing and it really gave me quite thrill. 

White Tiger

http://www.channel101.com/episode/832

Another Channel 101 short

http://www.channel101.com/episode/378

Failed Pilot

http://www.channel101.com/episode/445

Le Typewriter on Channel 101

http://www.channel101.com/episode/756

Why

It is still a mystery to me why people I'm not interested in at all are in me. And it happens to other people not just me. My friends tell me that it happens to them. My friend Joe kept hanging on and hoping that one of his coworkers would fall for him for six years. He would call me and ask me to tell him to just stop. I'd ask if he meant that I should tell him to stop waiting on his coworker to decide he was the one. He would say, "Yes. Tell me to stop wasting my time." Finally, I asked him if he could see himself having a life with her. His answer was a resounding NO. But occasionally and far too Often they end up hanging out and getting shitfaced together then he starts having feelings for her again... Then he calls me up wondering why she has such a hold on him. I always say I guess it's the challenge thing. For some reason he must like the challenge. 

Putting off

I have not been able to discuss my feelings or rather my lack of feelings for the Detroit guy or my friend who thinks we have future with either of them yet. It is weighing me down a bit. It's always difficult to have that talk with someone. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Might be good

http://www.channel101.com/episode/1370

Black Mirror

Marty told me that he heard Black Mirror is good so I started watching it. It's kind of weird. 

Googled

Marty Googled the Detroit guy and said he looks like he is 75 years old. Now, he knows why I said Jay looks way older than me. Jay is the same age as Marty and he looks way older.

Detroit guy

Marty gave me a little talking to last night and today. He says I need to end it with the Detroit guy. He thinks I should tell him I started dating someone else. 

Last Chuck

I watched the last episode of Chuck today. I miss it already.

Better and better

Still watching Chuck while it rains. And Chuck just keeps getting better and better. I can't even pick a favorite episode there are too many great ones to pick from to choose only one.

Lies

Jay, the Detroit guy, told me that if I am going to date divorced men I should get used to being lied to because guys who were married lie all the time. He says they lie because it became a tactic for avoiding conflict when married. Since men will do anything to avoid conflict they learn to lie so that they aren't confronted by their wives and they can't break the habit even after they're not married anymore. I'm not sure what the silver lining is yet. I can usually find one but it's alluding with regard to men lying.

Vishal

Vishal asked if all the men I am dating are married. I am not dating anyone really. The Detroit guy told me to check the court records so I have proof he is getting a divorce but I don't even care. We won't be going on any more dates since he kisses so delicately that it's almost kissing a girl. The married guy who wants to get divorced and sees a future with me is just thinking that way because we have been friends for a long time and I listen to him. We have never been on a date. My other friend who says I am the one he really loves is not in the running. And Ron, my friend with benefits prospect is on the same page as me. I think.

Forgot

After the guys at work were telling how full of crap I am for saying I have two criteria i told them if a guy doesn't think he can meet the criteria or if thinks I'm asking too much then he need not make application. If he doesn't like the requirements don't apply for the position (no pun intended).

The morning after

The other night we had our department Christmas party. The next morning three of my male coworkers were giving me a hard time. Harold started by telling the Building Official and my supervisor that I have three or four guys after me. And it escalated from there. Most of it stems from my date with the guy from Detroit. I met him through work. So, of course, Harold knows that I had a few dates. I made the point that I am single and can go on as many or few dates as I want (they're all married). After they gave me my fair share of grief while we laughed a lot, for some reason I said something about not being that picky. Then they were all asking what I meant by that because all women are picky. I said, "Not me, I only have two criteria." They accused me of being full of crap. I defended myself. So they asked what my criteria are so I said, "I wanna be with my best friend and there has to be chemistry." My declaration sparked much debate and there were some retorts from folks during the day to which I replied that there are sub-criteria or sub-categories under the criteria of best friend and chemistry." Though I was busier than any one person should be at work it was a fun day. And I like hearing what other people have to say about human interactions. 

Watching Chuck

I'm still watching Chuck on Netflix. And it's a good day for it. The rain is pouring down like it does in Central Oklahoma. It's a good excuse to skip Christmas shopping. I was wondering if you're supposed to believe people when they say, "Don't buy me anything for Christmas." I know when Gil says I shouldn't buy her anything for Christmas but I bought her some Allure lotion anyway last year because I went home for Christmas for the first time in six years. This year I won't be going home or maybe this home. I don't know yet. My says I should stop switching jobs. Though I have had three jobs in six years they have all been within the same retirement system.

Friday Off

This is my second Friday off it's great. 

Christmas

Gil and I didn't actually realize that Christmas is next week until yesterday. I don't know if we are bah humbuggy or what. Gil says she is.

Kiss

Gil and I were talking about chemistry and kissing. When I told her I kissed the Detroit guy and that I didn't really like the way he kissed she literally gasped. I said, "You gasped when I didn't like the way he kissed. It's not like I said my mom has cancer or something." Gil said, "Just forget the whole thing. If he can't kiss good nothing else is going to be good." And I told Gil that the kiss was too delicate. It was gross. Later, I was telling Ron about it and he said, "That's important?" I said, "Yeah." I thought all men knew that kissing is super important. There's no way I could get lost in a kiss if I don't like it. I have to remember to tell Ron that a lot of women put a great deal of stock in kissing and even the first kiss. It's one of those make you or break you moments.

Date number four

I had the fourth date with the Detroit guy last night. I am still on the fence. I noticed he has an old guy butt which is no butt. Maybe he could start riding a bike that might help.

Chemistry

Yesterday, I told Ron that it's peculiar to me that people don't have sexual chemistry with everyone else. It seems like if we as humans had chemistry with all other humans it would be the easy way to perpetuate the continuation of the species . Occasionally, it seems there is some hint of chemistry but then things go south. Unfortunately, it's impossible to know for sure if the sex is any good or not until you're in the middle of the whole thing before you know if it's going to go anywhere or not and then it's too late. And it's so disappointing when the whole prospect blows up in smoke. 

Making fudge

I am making fudge to take to work tomorrow as a Christmas treat.

My favorite day

I love Saturdays. I don't usually go to work and don't have to go to work tomorrow unless I want to go. And I may be able to squeeze in a nap or an outing to a museum. It would be nice have some time with Ron, my friend who might end up a friend with benefits but that's not a for sure thing yet.

Dinner Party

Last night, I went to a fantastic dinner party with the Detroit guy. The food was wonderful and he was fun. It was date number three of the four my Aunt Dorothy said I should relegate to this prospect.

Funny from Huffington

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/08/tinder-nightmares-instagram_n_6287812.html

Christmas shows

I have started watching all the Christmas shows;-)

On top of everything else

I've had a little more excitement than I like in the MAN Department lately. Besides the guy who thinks we have future together, the guy who seems to want to get to know me (or at least he is smart enough to act like that long enough to see if I am going to break down and have sex with him) and he is sizing me up, and the guy who would have sex with me if he doesn't meet anyone he is actually interested in, of all things, one of my best friends told me that I am the one he really loves. I can't figure out what the heck is going on lately. Why are men acting so interested in me? Maybe it's the cold weather. Maybe men like to have someone around to keep them warm.

Chuck and Black Beans

This is a great Sunday night. I am watching Chuck which I thoroughly enjoy. I was worried Awesome was killed but he was only kidnapped. I really like Awesome and of course, I like Chuck. Actually, I like everyone on the show. They're all good and bring something to the show. And I am making black beans for tacos. I cook the black beans with lots of onions and put them in corn tortillas with feta cheese, lettuce or spinach and avocado. They're super yummy. It's not quite what I thought I would be doing because I thought I was going to see a friend for a bit. But my plans fell through. hopefully, I'll get to see him soon. I always have a good time with him. 

Out of the blue

It seems that suddenly, or somewhat suddenly, I am getting some attention from men that was not solicited. One man who thinks he has a future with me, one man who is sizing me up, and one man who will have sex with me if he is desperate. Decisions, decisions.

Update on Chuck

If you haven't seen Chuck then you should. It is hilarious. For some reason, maybe because I have watched too many episodes, when I was at work Wednesday the theme song kept running through my mind. And I am not one of those people who thinks I am starring in a movie so there is music playing in the background all the time. It would be nice though. It would be great if dramatic music played when I walk into someone else's office or a meeting so that I know the person or persons are not to be trusted. If I am about to encounter someone sweet and adorable then happy music could play. If I'm about to meet the love of my life, romantic music could be playing in the background so I don't tell the guy to f.o. That would make life so much more simple.

Deede's advice for dating

My Aunt Dorothy, Deede, told me that I should be more interested in how a man treats me than if he has wrinkles, a gut or turkey neck. I know she is right but the main thing seems to be if there is chemistry there or not. She thinks there has to be chemistry too but believes you have to give it four dates to know if there is anything going on in the chemistry department. And I don't know if she thinks chemistry is the most important thing.

Worked late with June on Thursday

Day off

A couple of weeks ago my boss mentioned flex time. At the time, I said sure let's do it. Long story short, I have the day off and I had forgotten until he reminded me yesterday. I am so happy.

Internet dating

When I was getting a massage Sunday the therapist and I started talking, mainly about her. She is separated and has been on POF. She's younger than me by 10 years so that's a good age maybe every guy who asks her out isn't looking for someone to change his diapers. As the conversation went on it turned out that she has been on a lot of dates with men from POF. I started feeling like, "What the f have I been doing with all my time?" She described date after date and told me about a guy she was dating that was very serious and then he stopped calling. She didn't really know what happened. She said she wants to get married. And she is straight up about that when she hooks up with these guys. Also, she is very quick to dismiss someone who wants more children or doesn't fit other criteria she has. It reminded me of shopping with Gil. We would power shop and we were quick to just say no to items that weren't perfect or the right price.