The girl at work who said I should get on Match.com because that's how she met her boyfriend, told me that she and her boyfriend haven't had sex in about three years. She said she's tired of it. She said he's not interested in sex. Maybe they had sex before and it used to be great but I wondered why she was so encouraging. She and her boyfriend are long distance. I tried that but won't again. At the time, I thought long distance was great because I could take my time and get to know the guy so I would know if I really liked him instead of getting caught up in the excitement and losing perspective. The guy didn't think that though and didn't like the long distance and me.
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Cooking
Spending the evening doing some cooking. I'm watching Gone Girl too. I read the book last year and have wanted see the movie. I hate Amy.
Monday, March 30, 2015
Answer
Anytime I call my mom and she doesn't answer the phone I wonder if she had another heart attack. I know it's silly but I thin k it's because my dad died in a car wreck when I was six years old. Anytime I can't reach someone my first reaction is to worry. Then I try to imagine that they're out having fun and nothing is wrong.
Hidden Treasure
I found a chaise at Hidden Treasure that may be perfect for me to use as a bed when I have guests or more than like a guest, Gil. She's supposed to be coming down at some point. I need to see her. I need to do some getting rid of crap to fit the chaise in the second bedroom.
Good day
Monday was a good day at work for me. I didn't get enough done but I left at 5:00 and it felt so good. I felt like I had half of the day left to do whatever I want.
Sunday, March 29, 2015
21st Century Dating (online)
Today was a bust in the online dating arena. One guy sounded great but it turned out he was married so I told him I'm not interested. Another guy seemed very nice but after a bit I felt like I was on a job interview. Is this the future? I hope this is not the future of dating for young people it's so detached and vacant when meeting someone special can be life changing and should be but they won't even have that experience. I guess like a video game these young people can just push the Start button again. Yuck.
Reminiscing
Gil called earlier and I told her what a great day I had. Part of it, I attribute to listening to some Queen. I felt so good. She brought up Peter Frampton, Frampton Comes Alive. I need to get her that cd; she doesn't have it. She said if she had that cd she would listen to it on her way to work and crank it up. When my son, Nick called and I told him that I listened to a bunch of Queen today, he said that Queen is one of the first bands he remembers hearing as a small child. I remember he had definite opinions about music because when he was only about three or four he said he had heard enough Patsy Cline and said I should not play it any more. I played Patsy a lot when he was a little guy because i was all down in the dumps due to his dad. But i got over it or rather him. It's amazing what a healer time can be.
Working out
I wish that my arms looked like I've been working out but even more I wish my butt and gut were showing some signs of improvement. At least I'm not gaining more weight so I guess the working out is helping me maintain my weight. I changed my diet so maybe that's why I'm gaining weight.
Vivi
Somehow my phone called Vivi; I was frustrated but then Vivi called me later because she thought I had pocket dialed her so instead of being bad it was a blessing.
Man hands
I started watching Lipstick Jungle on Netflix while doing laundry which is my favorite chore. I read Lipstick Jungle years ago between semesters because I wanted to read something mindless for fun because my head had nearly exploded that semester. It's kind of silly but one thing I did notice is that Brooke Shields has man hands, big ole ginormous man hands. I kept thinking of that Seinfeld and Jerry's date with man hands.
Reminder from Gil
Gil called last night to remind me that my birthday is coming up and for a few weeks we'll be the same age. She says she's ending me a good card not one of those cards that's a dollar. Gil was drinking so she was really missing. She said she and Jeremy had a couple of beers together somewhere downtown and that they were both saying they wished that I was there. We were mutually missing each other. I wish I got to see them more often. It's been too long.
Saturday, March 28, 2015
Is it bad?
To try to make myself feel better I look at a bad photo of the guy who crapped on me last. The ugly picture makes me feel a little better that he dumped me. It's stupid and superficial but whatever gets the job done, right?
Googling divorce lawyers
I'm looking for a divorce lawyer for my find. It's depressing. I have contended that i someone is married it may be best to stay married. If there is a person who put up with your shit then consider yourself lucky. There may not be another person on earth who will put up with your crap. And you're going to have to put up someone who has a whole set of idiosyncrasies that you're not familiar with or accustomed to. It's hard to break old habits or change when you're older as in adapt to someone new. When you're young it's easy to adapt and when you're young you basically grow up together. When you get to be 45 or 50 years old you're not that adaptable. And some change and adaptation is expected, especially by women. I can't imagine getting out there at 50 as a single person who hasn't dated in 20 or 30 years. And it's not that easy to be alone if you're not used to it so I think it is more of a challenge than people realize when they start thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
My last birthday
Last year, i received a necklace for my birthday. It was very unexpected. I was surprised to find out that I have the day off and should be happy about that I guess. I wish I would get a fantastic surprise.
Danny's advice
My buddy from High School gave me some advice, "The best way to get over one is to get under another one". He swears by it.
Sore
Yesterday, when I got a massage it wasn't the usual guy who hurt me so bad that my ass was even sweating but another one of the men and I woke up this morning so sore. I have been trying to trim up my arms and flatten my stomach but that hasn't happened yet. Since I was up in the middle of the night and had trouble going back to sleep I slept in this morning and missed my workout. I was supposed to eat some breakfast with a man from OKCupid but I told him the wrong restaurant and we didn't connect. It was probably some kind of subliminal thing. I should have said I would go anyway since he is not attractive to me. I keep thinking I should give it a shot because sometimes people grow on you. And sometimes people are not photogenic. Then again some people look way better in photos than in real life and that's such a disappointment.
The middle of the night
I woke up and couldn't go back to sleep so I watched I.Q. on Netflix. It was a cute movie. It did not put me to sleep.
Friday, March 27, 2015
Great meal
The yoga teacher was sick so I went to a core class which ended up being very good. Then I headed over to Merlion in Seabrook to grab something to go. I met a few very nice people before my food arrived which was great. i also had a couple of Blonde Bombshells and I really liked those so now, I know of another beer I like. When I got home and ate it turned out that the food was awesome. I am so glad I saw Merlion when Iwas out driving around and exploring.
Recommendations
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/tv/a38180/shows-that-are-better-when-binge-watched/?src=nl&mag=cos&list=nl_chg_news&date=032715
For your entertainment
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/g4695/the-best-sex-position-for-your-sign/?src=nl&mag=cos&list=nl_chg_news&date=032715
Pretty silly but may be true
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a38157/things-guys-love-about-moving-in-together/?src=nl&mag=cos&list=nl_chg_news&date=032715
Decision to make
I'm trying to decide on the name of the story I'm working on and I don't know which one I like better:
My Life's a Chick Flick,
Good Enough for Government Work, or
Chanel No 5 and 100,000 Cigarettes
My Life's a Chick Flick,
Good Enough for Government Work, or
Chanel No 5 and 100,000 Cigarettes
This time last year
I was heading to Corpus Christi to celebrate my birthday. It was mostly a fantastic weekend. I'd like to go to Corpus soon but I need to explore Galveston. And I'm stoked to go to Lake Charles soon I have the downtown has some great buildings.
Different message on OKCupid
Stylish :) Care for a drink? Roses? Chocolates? Or a soothing shoulder rub :) just teasing on the last one :) hope u respond.
Thursday, March 26, 2015
Good Friday
I was looking at the work calendar and noticed that I have my birthday off since it's Good Friday. So for three Fridays in a row I will be off work. The 11th of April I will be in Austin for the Diva Dash. Spring is starting to shape up.
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Bed head/Messy hair
One day, I fixed my hair in the messed up style. it looked alright. Harold came in my office and right away he said my hair looked really nice. I told him, thanks and explained that I was going for the messed up look. He said his wife fixed her hair like that one day and he really liked it. Then they went to his mother's house. When they were about to go to church Harold's mother said to his wife that they could wait for her while she fixed her hair (Harold said his mother didn't realize his wife's hair was fixed).
Monday, March 23, 2015
Russell Brand
When I told my mom I was watching Russell Brand on Netflix, she said she thought he was funny but decided there must be something wrong with him because he already got dumped. And she thought it might be something to do with sex because he talks about it a lot. I said that it might be because he's young and that's what young guys think about and talk about. She said that she didn't know. So I told her maybe he kept trying to toss his wife's salad or maybe he wanted his salad tossed. My mom said, "Does that mean something? Is it some sort of code for something?" I told her what it means and she said I guessed it meant something like that. My mom's 71. So many euphemisms so little time.
Harold
When Harold asked me about the weekend and I told him it was great except for seeing a guy I went out with a few times when i went to see and a band and I was sure hoping he didn't see me and come to the conclusion that I am a stalker, he said the guy only wants my body and I should go to church on Easter. I made sure to point out to Harold that the guy absolutely has no interest in my body and can't even be around me. Harold said he would not invite me to church again but if I want to come I'm welcome. I thought if that would do it for me I would be the luckiest person in the world.
Sunday, March 22, 2015
James and OKCupid
James called me on Hangouts and told me he accidentally got on my OKCupid. He wanted to alert me. Coincidentally, he wanted me to know that one of the guys contacting me is a weirdo. It was the one who sent me the strange message earlier today on Hangouts. I told James about the incident earlier today, I said that's the same guy I told not to contact me again and he said tell me what I did and I won't write you again and so I did and then he kept contacting me anyway.
Great day to get outside
Men are so weird
Hey my very Good friend,
good Night and how are you doing as well and i hope by now you would be getting ready for your bed. Have you laid your bed already and how smooth is it. Is the bed and inviting one for for you to rest on since today had been a very tiring one as well. I wish to see your bed how passionate and lovely to sleep on as well. Anyway, my friend, i just wants you to know that, you are the light in dark. the smooth in my roughs, the correct in my wrongs, easy in my toughs, the bright in my dull, the good in my bad, the smile in my frowns and the happy in my sad. I am very blessed to have you as a friend and it's a great feeling to have someone so understanding and patient and as well as very passionate to talk to and i do believe and have the hope that as we get along, we find the way to open each others heart to allow the flow of passion and caresses that we we want all day and all night long as well. And the brightest stars in my life are not planetary objects, they are friends like you who shine through night and day. And as you draw closer to your sleep, i only want you to stuff your worries in your pillow, wrap your troubles in your blanket and spread your anxieties on your bed sheet. When you wake up tomorrow you may have dirty linen, but a fresh mind and a happy heart. And so i say stop thinking about all the things people said to hurt your feelings. Just hold on tightly to the memories of all the times someone made you smile. Good night.
good Night and how are you doing as well and i hope by now you would be getting ready for your bed. Have you laid your bed already and how smooth is it. Is the bed and inviting one for for you to rest on since today had been a very tiring one as well. I wish to see your bed how passionate and lovely to sleep on as well. Anyway, my friend, i just wants you to know that, you are the light in dark. the smooth in my roughs, the correct in my wrongs, easy in my toughs, the bright in my dull, the good in my bad, the smile in my frowns and the happy in my sad. I am very blessed to have you as a friend and it's a great feeling to have someone so understanding and patient and as well as very passionate to talk to and i do believe and have the hope that as we get along, we find the way to open each others heart to allow the flow of passion and caresses that we we want all day and all night long as well. And the brightest stars in my life are not planetary objects, they are friends like you who shine through night and day. And as you draw closer to your sleep, i only want you to stuff your worries in your pillow, wrap your troubles in your blanket and spread your anxieties on your bed sheet. When you wake up tomorrow you may have dirty linen, but a fresh mind and a happy heart. And so i say stop thinking about all the things people said to hurt your feelings. Just hold on tightly to the memories of all the times someone made you smile. Good night.
Never write this to a woman
gorgeous am so sorry to have bothered you but came across your profile and was so intrigue and thought it mandatory for me to write you this little note.God bless the day you were brought into this world i never believed angels walks among we mankind not till this very moment i laid my tender eyes on your profile God bless the woman that through her womb gave birth to an angel such as you smile it will be of great honor to get to know you beautiful if you don,t mind i bring to you know harm but come with a clear spirit and good intention.Have a blessed sunday
Keeping in mind
The last guy a went on a few dates with was a little mean. He was snippy at times and that happened way too early in the relationship. He lied about being with me which compromised my ability to act appropriately when he was ill and I needed to call an ambulance (I don't think he was still married though well, legally anyway, he may have been in his head and heart. He would say crappy things sometimes though somewhat subtle they were still crappy. Worst of all he did the come here go away thing. Actually, I don't know if that was the worst thing of all but it sucked. The worst thing of all may have been when I made the mistake of having sex with him too early because I was already pretty much in love with him, stupidly. Right after that, he asked what I expected out of the relationship and I told I was looking for a best friend and someone I wanted have sex with instant he came through the door and he laughed at me. So, lesson learned if you realize you made a mistake right off the bat, just move on. It's just going to hurt much worse later. If I meet someone I feel very attracted to again, I'm going to be grateful as I was with him because I thought it would never happen again but I am not going to be so open. I think being honest open isn't always the best approach. It scares guys away.
Saturday, March 21, 2015
Gil called
Watching Sex and the City made Gil think to call me. I invited her down for a visit. I miss my going out buddy. I told her last night I didn't get dressed up or anything. i worked out and got all sweaty then decided to go out so I just put my hair back in a headband, put on some jeans and a t-shirt. At the last minute, I remembered I am always cold so I grabbed my favorite long jacket. Gil said that's fine when you're not wanting to go out and meet someone. I said I knew good and well I wasn't going to meet someone and be swept off my feet or run into an old flame and get carried away so I din't care if my legs were shaved. I didn't bring up Jeremy and that she should be getting some. Jeremy called me New Year's Eve and told me Gil had cut him off. At the time, I remember thinking I was so glad i had a fwb who wasn't giving me any grief but that was short lived. Any time I think things are going well and I'm so lucky something happens. I probably would have just fallen for him again anyway so it's best that he cut me off. I think that is the problem with Jeremy and Gil. I think Jeremy has fallen for Gil but at one time I thought she was really showing some feelings for him but that was a long time ago. Maybe that happens with fwb's if it goes on for a while one or the other or both start to have feelings for the fwb. Gil always says she's not like that that she can just have a fwb.
Calling Jeremy soon
After chatting with Gil about my night out at the Scout Bar and thinking it would have been more fun with my her, I remembered how much fun we would have out dancing; she, Jeremy and I. I wish they would come visit but I would have drank more than two hard ciders if they were in my party. I could tell Gil drank several beers; she seemed a little loopy. Of course, going out by myself and driving I would not want to invite trouble. There is something to be said for a hangover free morning. It was bad enough that I had to see Ron and suffer through that regret, he did seem buzzed when he left so maybe he never saw me. I couldn't help but see him come in and leave because I was up front sort of. I am going back to Scout Bar soon for P.O.D. and I'm excited about it.
You'll be sorry
One of my coworkers told her boyfriend of three years he was going to be sorry he treated her so badly that she broke up with him. She said she told him that eventually he would realize that he made a mistake and want her back and then it would be too late. When she was telling me the story I thought it was great that she had that much confidence in herself because even if I felt like saying something like that to a man I wouldn't. In her case it did end up being true. She met an engineer at work who asked her out and they are engaged now.
Gil and Jeremy
Last night after the show, I called Gil. I told her about my night. She had been out drinking Jeremy. Gill said she told Jeremy that she was wishing I was there and I told her that I kept thinking the Spazmatics show would have been a real hoot if she was there. She said Jeremy said that we used to be the three musketeers but they did a lot stuff without me, especially friends with benefits stuff. i asked if they had sex last night and she said no and she made several comments about the sex being good with him. I asked why she doesn't just start sleeping with him again but she said she hasn't been horny lately. I said she probably needs to go to the doctor or something. Though I'm better now since I'm not having sex it's not like I wouldn't want to if I had the opportunity with someone I knew I was compatible with like Gil's situation is. But I haven't run into anyone I compatible with often enough have many choices in that department. I think Ron and Steve are about it. Steve's married and Ron dislikes me. I think that just about covers the last 20 years. i need to get out more. I thought my husband was someone I was compatible with and that happened within the last 20 years but he kept wanting to toss my salad so he had to go. Well, and there was the jealousy thing which was incredibly stupid since I usually have eyes for no other guy if I am in love. I miss my fwb;-(
Drive
Since I had to mail a bunch notices to complete a recent annexation, I decided to take a drive and look at some of the houses on the water. This is a nice place. Also, I found the place where I am going to dinner tonight if I feel like getting out. There's a little Thai place by the post office that sparked my interest. When I pulled up at my place my neighbor expressed his dislike of the rain and said that I'm beginning to wonder if I'll ever get to ride my bike if I continue to live here. My mood changed when I walked in the living room and saw that True Lies had just started and it is one of my favorite Arnold action movies. I think it is so funny. I used to watch it with Nick. We were big action movie junkies when he was growing up. Lately, I have been less down about us being so far apart. I guess everything does get better over time. I am a slow healer.
Pride and Prejudice and Zombies
A good day to read since my parking lot is already under water. I bought Pride and Prejudice and Zombies which might be entertaining on a rainy day.
It's days like today that;
I really miss my umbrella.It is pouring rain which seems to happen much more frequently than it did in Corpus Christi, exacerbating my yearning for my umbrella. I loaned my umbrella to someone and it has still to be returned. It seem like it would be easy enough to just set it outside the door, especially since it's a tow-toned pink Victoria's Secret umbrella and I loaned it to a man. If I had known which I should have based on past unpredictable behavior, that my visitor wouldn't bring it back I wouldn't have loaned him my biggest umbrella. I used to have a philosophy of never loaning anything to anyone that I wanted back and it was probably a good tenet (worth re-instituting).
Yesterday
Besides seeing Ron at the Spazmatics, my boss had asked me to ask Ron a question next time I talked to him. A little background, my boss bought Ron's former home. My boss was desperately looking for a home in the Seabrook area and I knew Ron wanted to sell his home at some point so I got them together and it worked out for both parties (hopefully, time will tell). My boss wanted to know where the water for the laundry room is located. Thankfully, I thought on my feet and said why don't you just email him? He said that he hadn't even thought of that. So yesterday was one of those days when the mantra has to be positive so the downward spiral doesn't start especially after that date that totally bummed me out about Ron last weekend. Dating and getting to know a man is always such a dichotomy. At first, the man is sweet and attentive but as soon as the hokie pokie lesson is over things go to shit. My work out at work was great and I got a few things done at work, not enough though.
Funky foto
Friday, March 20, 2015
Room
When I booked my room for the Diva Dash in Austin, I got a message that read CONGRATULATIONS YOU JUST GOT THE CHEAPEST ROOM AVAILABLE!!! I thought that was pretty funny.
Friday
I'm so glad it's Friday even though I know I will never get everything I need to get done done. I just hope I don't have to go in over the weekend. On Fridays, we do Beach Body weights and abs. My arms and shoulders are looking better but I haven't seen any difference in my stomach and butt yet.
Advertising
How come none of the men on dating websites look like the men in their ads? And I mean none. Maybe it's because I'm in Seabrook, Texas. I wish I was I was in Malibu, CA where even the ugly people are good looking.
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Wednesday
For a little while this morning, I thought it was Thursday and I was thinking it's that the weekend is almost here and then I realized it's only Wednesday and the week isn't quite half over yet. But Wednesday is a Beach Body day at work.
Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Mom
My mom actually asked me if I heard back from my date the other night I told her what happened. When I told her about the texts back and forth she laughed. I told her that after the few dates I have had over the last few months I don't feel like going on another date very soon. She said, "Oh, you'll forget about that." It surprised me that she was almost encouraging. That's the first time she has optimistic about me going on a date since Ronni and I went out to Houston from Corpus to meet a couple of men from Houston and somewhere in Louisiana.
Still
Even after being really blunt with a bad date the other night the guy wrote me again. I texted that being around him just makes me feel bad that I am not with the guy I'm still in love with so I don't want to be around him any more. Of all things, he wrote me back again saying I'm great and if I change my mind let him know if I want to hang out or even more. Just goes to show men want what they can't have. I guess if I ever think I am falling for someone again I need to be mean to him but I am not a fan of games.
Filling a need
I
can't help but feel like the last few guys I've gone out with just wanted
someone to update with regard to their mundane lives. It could just be that they want to feel important to someone. And they totally miss the mark. You make someone think you're important by treating them like they're important to you. I have even had guys text me photos of themselves in the seat
on a plane, their lunch, their beer that they intend to drink with lunch, etc.
At times, I was silly enough to think it was kind of cute, like maybe the guy
was thinking of me but he wasn't really the type to say I was thinking of you.
But I think it's really that they all see themselves as some celebrity like,
George Clooney or someone. I really don't care what George Clooney had for lunch let alone anyone else. I don't even read PEOPLE. I noticed though that
after they do this updating me on every move they make for a while then it
morphs to the bitching about work. I remember this guy and I thought he was the
one, I mean I was just crazy about him, started calling later and later which
was not cool with me since I'm an early riser and he would go on about how much
his job sucked for about 47 minutes and three seconds and just when he seemed
to be losing momentum and I thought I might get to change the subject to
something else like, when we would get to have sex again, he would say,
"Oh, hey, let me let you go." It sucked. I remember thinking that he
didn't even ask me how I was or say he missed me, NADA about me. I am pretty
selfless in a lot of ways but I felt like I was so unimportant and bored. Trust
me on this, not even George Clooney can pull off bitching and moaning
constantly and keep a woman interested. Anyway, enough of my shithouse philosophy for one day. ONWARD!!!
Sunday, March 15, 2015
The first of several tests
I had the first blood test week before last and it turns out that I am not allergic to tomatoes, oranges, grapefruits, etc. So getting very sick after eating tomatoes has nothing to do with allergies. I'll have to take more tests. I tried self medication through diet for a long time but I was worse.
Already
sick of online dating. It's depressing. I have told a couple of acquaintances contemplating divorce that they should rethink it. Trying to date in the 21st Century is worse than ever. People are so weird and full of crap about themselves. I think I would rather have friends it's so much more fulfilling. And, I like doing nice things for people without them reading anything into it. I guess it's hard to be friends with people today too.
So funny
TextsFromLastNight
@TFLN
remember that text that you shouldn't have sent last night? we do... send your TFLN to http://textsfromlastnight.com/Submit-a-Text.html …
POF
Apparently quite a few men wake up bright and early to message women on POF. I checked and had five or six messages. Unfortunately, I am interested not in any of the men who wrote them. After watching Stop at Nothing: The Lance Armstrong Story, I don't know if I like bald men anymore. It was so disgusting that I don't know if I can look at a bald guy again without feeling sick at my stomach.
The last sort of date I had
Last time, I went somewhere with a guy (whom I had told I was only interested in trying to be friends not dating) he touched me and did the lean a bunch and I did not reciprocate but he didn't notice that I wasn't reciprocating because he was too busy pontificating because he can't shut up. I kept hinting at going home to no avail (I said I was tired but it didn't work, I said I had a headache but it didn't work) so I finally had to say I was really depressed about my ex. I told him that when he talked about his ex it made me start thinking about my ex and it depressed me and I just wanted to go home and be alone and nothing was going to make me feel better.
Every time
Every single time I am on POF or OKCupid and I see a photo of guy that is at some weird angle it reminds me of the time I showed my girlfriend Ronni a picture a guy sent me and she said it creeped her out because it was like he took the picture from that angel so it would be like a woman was looking up at him while she was blowing him. Now, every time I see a picture at a weird angel like that I am grossed out and get a creepy feeling.
How long does it take to tell a story?
Maybe I'm impatient but how long does it take to tell a story? It was all I could do to keep my mouth shut when this guy was telling me a story about buying some shoes in Hong Kong earlier. First, I don't give a SHIT about men's shoes. Now, women's shoes on the other hand I am quite passionate about. In fact, I have been known to have a shoegasm in public. Also, the story was boring and had too many details for the subject matter. It could also be that I have no interest in the man telling the story so I just kept concentrating on self control so that I would not say, "Could you just shut the f*@# up."
Lance Armstrong
Today, I told several people that I watched Stop at Nothing: The Lance Armstrong Story. Every single person had the same response. They all said he was a fraud. It shocked me that the response was so overwhelming. Not one person said anything good about him. Usually somebody can identify with a person's story and even feel for the person but not in this case. It was like every one I mentioned the documentary to felt betrayed or let down. I thought it was strange that everyone said he was a fraud instead of calling him a cheater. It might just be me but for some reason committing fraud sounds worse than cheating. Maybe fraud is not associated with a game as cheating is in my mind.
Fox News
I know the next thing out of some guys mouth is going to suck when the preface is, "Earlier on Fox News..." Is it rude tell say that I don't even consider Fox News news.
Vodka/Red Bull
Generally, I stay away from vodka/Red Bull due to past mishaps but I decided to try it again. I behaved myself. I feel like it was quite an accomplishemnt.
Saturday, March 14, 2015
Hanging out
For some reason when I had a drink with a new friend this evening it just made me miss my old friends. Worse: I got the impression that he was hoping it was more than a drink with a new friend. When I tell a guy I'm not interested it does not mean try harder or I'm being coy.
No email
It took several evenings but I now have an empty mail box. I will never let my email pile up like that again. Next, I need to clean up my address book. I have emails from years ago in there. And then, I need to get rid of stuff in my phone and on my Google account. I hate doing stuff like that but I guess it's got to be done.
Chinatown
I went to Chinatown and had the best Chinese food I've had since 2006, when I was in China. Yum.
Exes
I know I have said that it is so unattractive for men and of course, women too, to talk about their exes on a date. But I'd like to make another point which will beyond ant doubt convince anyone to shut the f*@# up about your exes. When you're trying to get to know someone and all he does is go on and on about his ex-wife and how she cheated on him or spent all his money or turned the kids against him or drove him to cheat on her or ,etc, etc, etc... it brings back memories of your ex. Thoughts of your ex go both ways usually. In one way you miss your ex and everything felt when you met because you felt a connection and just knew this guy was the one. Second, you remember how awful and forlorn you were when you broke up and start thinking about how you wish things had worked out differently and how disappointed you are that he did not end up being the one. The worst is that you thought he was going to be part of your life from now on and it's not going to happen. And you remember the heart break up like it was last night. With those to points in mind why would a man bring up his ex and go into detail about their sex life together, their kids, their break up. I had to tell someone that today. I wish I had said that to the last guy I dated but instead I tried too hard to be a good friend.
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