India

I'm on Hangouts with one of my subscribers and he is telling that he just read my latest blogs and the topics are bolder e.g., the one about pubic hair. I told him that Marty and I talk about everything. Marty and I have been friends for more than 20 years and since Marty is a comic he's used to opening up about all kinds of issues. My Indian friend said no one talks about stuff like pubic hair in India. He says he doesn't think guys talk to their girlfriends or wives about things. So I asked if men tell each other what they like and he said yes. I said that's what I figured. 

Waiting

I have been waiting for an update from Marty for hours. I want to know how his date with the long distance woman went.

Explanation

I think I should explain why I said people are so fat and ugly today that they would look better if their genitalia were on their faces. People have gotten so grossly overweight in the United States that their facial features are distorted. You can't even really tell what they look like. I have a couple of friends who lost weight and they don't even look like the same human beings. When I was growing up there was one chubby kid -- whom by today's standards wouldn't even be considered chubby -- in my class/grade and everyone else would be thin, average, normal, etc. But kids didn't snack all day or sit on the arses playing video games all day. We played kick ball, rode bikes, played barbies, played tag, etc. Today, there is one thin kid in class and everyone else is fat. It's unbelievable. I remember thinking the fat girl Annette who would sleep with any guy who would have her, in Saturday Night Fever was disgusting but recently when I saw it on T.V. she doesn't even look chubby let alone fat. When I went to China for an Urban Design Study Abroad one of my guides told me that there aren't many fat Chinese kids but the few chunky, overweight kids are called McDonalds kids. I know it seems like I am being mean and superficial saying people are fat and ugly but in the United States people have gotten so overweight in the last decade or so that they don't even resemble what people used to look like. And many people are obsessed with food. I have worked with people who think about their next meal before they're done with their current meal. It seems like food is the most popular form of entertainment these days. And portions are huge. One entree is enough for two or three or fours meals. When I lived in Corpus Christi it was the fattest city in the U.S. two years in a row. Almost everyone I worked with had diabetes and they just continued to shovel the food in their mouths some of them had to take shots before every meal. The worst thing is that there are still some kids going without food or healthy meals.

Chuck

Before I finish Criminal Minds on Netflix I am starting Chuck. I remember I saw one episode years ago and I liked it.

Carrot

Over the years, guys have thrown a carrot out there on a date that annoys me more than sending back food on a date. And it happened again recently. My date asked me if I like David Yurman -- Google if you don't know -- and alarms went off in my head. First, I think that by asking the guy is inferring that he is thinking of buying you some jewelry so you will fall for it and have sex with him or at the very least, start thinking about it if you can overlook his gut, turkey neck, wrinkles, space in his teeth, crooked penis or whatever flaw he has or perceives that he has. Second, there is no correct response. What response does a man want from a women when he asks id she likes jewelry. I know one woman who does not like jewelry. And she still has some jewelry she just doesn't have a lot of it but what she has is very nice. Third, I think I think it's the equivalent of a woman saying to a man, "Do you like tight pu*@@es?", " Don't tell me you like tight p*@@ies." or "You're kidding you like tight pussies my last boyfriend liked tight p@**ies.", That's how ridiculous it is.

Fight

I thought Marty and I were going to get in a fight about pubic hair yesterday. He thinks it is so gross for women to shave their hair off. I said that I think men like for women to shave. And h said no one he knows like for women to shave. I said everyone I know likes for women to shave and liking pubic hair is a fetish. He said he thinks having pubic hair is normal and human. I said I think people are getting away from the natural look and  not shaving. I said maybe the guys I know who have said they like no pubic hair want to be able to see so they know where everything is. And Marty said he's not sure he wants to see genitalia all that well. He disagreed and said that he thinks Bobcat Goldthwait got it right. Bobcat says if genitalia looked good it would be on your face. And I said that as fat and ugly as people are these days their genitalia probably look better than their faces. 

Catching up

Had the opportunity to catch up with Gil this evening.

Tenth time

Once again I am restoring my computer. It's a bummer. I am wondering how many times I am going to have to do this. Every time things are still jacked up.

Bill Cosby

I asked Marty what he thinks about the Bill Cosby thing and he said that he thinks Bill Cosby is finally getting his due. Years ago when they working in the same place the waitresses hated to have to go any where near Bill Cosby because he would try to grope them and the waitresses thought Bill Cosby was a pig.

Post Thanksgiving

It's Black Friday and I will not be going shopping. I can't imagine wanting anything badly enough to go to a mall, Wal Mart or Target. I am going to list some shoes on ebay, three pairs I have never even worn. 

Why is it so hard

Marty and I were talking and the topic of kissing came up. Neither one of us can figure out why it is so hard to find someone who kisses the way we like. His latest online romance -- if you can call having sex with someone a romance -- opens her mouth too big and rams her tongue down his throat. That's what brought up me saying I think I'm awfully picky for someone who gets so little. It seems like I'd be happy if someone tried to kiss me at all. Or like I'd be overjoyed when someone acts interested in me but if there's no chemistry I can't keep interested. I don't want to have to try to like someone. And Marty said he can't force himself to like someone either. He said he hates feeling like he's forcing something.

This week

I was really stressed out about my son, Nick. I kept reminding him to be aware of his surroundings and to get home from work before dark since he works in Oakland. I'm sick of violence.

Criminal Minds

The stories are enough to discourage ever dating again. It makes me happy I'm too old to attract stalkers anymore. Mostly old guys like me since I'm a spring chicken to guys who are mostly old farts.

Latest addiction

I'm watching Criminal Minds on Netflix now. It's not the best thing to watch before going to sleep at night. 

Got off work early at 4:30

I wish I was making pies but I think I'll just have a beer or hard cider.

strange

I just told Marty it's strange that I am as picky as I am as little as I get.

Left work early at 5:15

I'm usually at work until 6:30 or so sometime 8:00 or 9:00 (that's why salary is not a good idea) but today I left so I could come home and freshen up for my date. It's been a while. I don't really like going on dates. 

Dinner date

Tonight I have my dinner date. My aunt told me that you should go on at least four dates before you decide anything...I'll see how it goes.

Coffee

Over the weekend, I tried almond milk in coffee. It was disruptive to my routine and made my mornings feel incomplete. Yesterday afternoon, I drank a cup of coffee with creamer and it was fantastic. I cam to the conclusion I'm addicted to it. I was trying to give it up but I don't know that I can. It might be easier to give up coffee. I gave up coffee once before and I lost the will to live. It was terrible.

Netflix

I'm watching Dumb and Dumber. It is one of my all time favorites.

Good advice

I got some good advice from a couple of friends today, both men. They're trying help me out of a predicament without losing a good friend. Life is such a roller coaster sometimes.

Gil

Yesterday, Gillian was telling me that we are getting older (Gils's 53 and I'm 52) and that from now on we can look forward to going out with old guys. It was really depressing. On the upswing, I'm thinking that I would like to be an AARP model if this whole city planning thing doesn't work out since I'm not so sure about government work. 

Friends and family

After my coffee date I had to catch up with friends. They had asked for updates. 

Raining

The rain is pouring and it reminds me of the storms in Oklahoma. 

Update

The coffee date went well. We are going to have dinner Monday evening.

Best presentation

The most enlightening presentation at The Texas Big Six Conference yesterday was about El Paso. Though I've read a great deal about El Paso the content of the presentation was very informative and Planning Director did a great job of presenting the information. It was almost enough to make me apply the next time I see a job posted but I have not applied in the past because of all the violence in Ciudad Juarez. The Director did bring up the violence in Cuidad Juarez and the dichotomy between El Paso, the safest city in the U.S. and El Paso but the violence was not emphasized. He spoke of the rich history, Google El Paso or get on the official city website. El Paso is predicted to be a megapolitan city in the U.S. as well the Austin, San Antonio, Houston triangle. At the Los Angeles Planning Conference I attended a session on megapolitan cities that was very informative and data driven. Those clusters will be the best places for jobs and a chance at being middle class in the U.S., that's my opinion anyway. And El Paso  had a Comprehensive Plan in 1928 which I found very interesting and progressive. It was the second city in the U.S. after Cincinnati to have a Comp Plan. I think I'd like to visit El Paso sometime. It might be a good place to do some real estate investing. 

In Houston

At The Texas Big Six conference, drove in the rain but made it. One of the speakers is John Dugan, my former teacher and Planning Director of Oklahoma City. He is in San Antonio now. It's nice to see a familiar face. It's rare for me to see someone I know.

goodnight

Sleep tight

Count down

Anticipating my coffee date Saturday morning.

Coffee date

I'm excited about my coffee date. It's similar to a blind date. Jay's colleagues told him about me. He was intrigued. I asked why his associates would mention me to him and he said he didn't know. He said they weren't trying to fix us up or anything, they just brought me up because of their development plans. It's weird but after I told June that I have a date then she tried to fix me up with someone her husband. I don't really like to date two or three or four guys at the same time. I guess that would be ok if it was really casual but I would rather date someone I feel like spending time with and developing a relationship with.

Time

It's time for yoga so I can regenerate.

I don't usually post recipes but this looks good

http://www.pbs.org/food/fresh-tastes/asparagus-tart/

Medicine

So many things have happened lately that make it abundantly clear to me that our medical policies and system are so screwed up. Additionally, the way doctor's treat illness sucks. Gil keeps getting yanked around about physical therapy (insurance b.s.). Beth's mom is being yanked around about her rehab after suffering a stroke during a quadruple bypass (insurance b.s.). My mom had one procedure done this week that is required so she may or may not have another procedure done. And, with regard to another health issue, she is being told to wait until the blockage in her left carotid gets worse to have surgery, it's only significantly blocked but not 80% blocked which is the tipping point for the surgical insertion of a stint. My mom even said she hopes it won't get worse. Since that sounded like a statement that was based in denial I talked to her about changing her diet more. I think it may have worked. I was just appalled that the doctor said it's not bad enough for surgery yet...Why not try to avoid surgery with some behavioral changes. She needs a lifestyle adjustment.

Looking forward to Saturday

Saturday can't come soon enough. I'm really excited about my date. My mom and friends are pretty excited too. Since I haven't had a date in six months (Memorial Day weekend), I had to answer enough questions to constitute a final exam. At least, I'm getting out there. i haven't been interested in dating anyone really. I was starting to think that I was becoming a lot more like Gillian, who has absolutely no interest in dating. Gil would be happy if we lived out our days manifesting a never ending Golden Girls episode. But Gil has been married twice and has no aspirations in that area. I was married once for two months and that included the time it took to get an annulment. A really embarrassing event. I used to think I would date someone and get married again once Nick was grown but I've only had one boyfriend in the last six years and he wasn't marriage material since it turned out that he was still married to someone else. Yikes. Thankfully that ended anticlimactically. I'm hoping Jay will be someone to go out with when he's in town and that he is fun and doesn't take himself too seriously. I could use some fun and attention.

Hot bath

My muscles are ready for a hot bath.

Update

My date is Saturday, not Friday. I'm excited. And so far, he hasn't gone on and on about his ex-wife. I don't even know her name. That's refreshing because the last few dates I've had I felt like I knew more about the mens' ex-wives than I did them at the end of the evening. Boring!!!

Good workout today

It is so cold that I didn't even want to go outside. Finally, I got the gumption to go over to the gym and workout. I am so glad I did. I used the sauna for the first time and it was nice. Then I decided to tan for a few minutes so but I forgot goggles and my swim suit so I had to wear my bra over my eyes so my lids would not burn (pretty hilarious).

Fading Gigilo

I'm watching Fading Gigilo on Netflix. It looks like it is going to be great.

Date

So I have a date next Friday. Wow!!! Hell must have frozen over. I'm excited. First, I have to get someone else to work out a couple of issues.

Talk about marriage with Marty this morning

Of course I was up at the crack of dawn as usual. I was thinking about the guy who was overtly flirting with me the other night. Some of the questions he asked me were: Are you married? What do you like to do? How far away from the airport are you? Are there things to do in Seabrook? If I have to work the week of Thanksgiving... He definitely was not even trying to play coy or covertly fish for facts. And he told me that people he deals with here in Texas have told him about me. He lives in Detroit and made it a point to tell me that he is in Texas all the time. I was wondering if would be appropriate for me to ask him the same questions, especially since I am his facilitator. I made it a point to tell men in Corpus Christi and Killeen that it was inappropriate for me to eat with them or have a drink with them, yadda, yadda, yadda. Also, in the past, when I have asked men if they were married when they asked me out, they lied. Unless I hire a private dick there is no way I am going to know for sure if a man is lying or not. And, the last guy I went on a few dates with talked about his ex-wife a lot, so, in my mind, he wasn't truly divorced emotionally. He may have been legally divorced -- he didn't show me his divorce papers though he offered and didn't follow through, since he talked about her all the time I thought it was a moot point -- but he was definitely not done with the marriage and he wasn't done telling people all about it, (primarily total strangers) that his wife had affairs, (who knows if that's true but that was his story and he was sticking to it and milking it for all it was worth). I guess everyone needs someone to talk to but it should be a therapist. It's probably less expensive to go on a date and chat someone up about your ex-wife than to pay for therapy and a date but it's a waste of time and terrible turn off for the listener and worse the lost opportunity to be with someone because you're still with your ex.

Then I called Marty because as usual my crack of dawn was his bed time. With my coffee, we talked our mothers (their health), basketball and basketball shoes. Marty has been playing basketball avidly for 40 years. Marty has some You Tube videos posted. There are all kinds of them. He rates basketball shoes. He has made music videos, promos  for other comedians, all kinds of stuff... We also started talking about marriage as usual. I told him about this story a guy told me. The guy said not all that long ago, his mother told him that about six months after she married his step father they had a talk and both agreed they had made a mistake and they should not have gotten married. That was about 35 years ago. i asked him why they stayed together. He said he guessed they didn't want to be alone. And maybe they were tired of dating his mom had dated several guys when she and his father divorced. I remember thinking how sad that story was and that those two people had sold out. I thought it seemed like they would realize you only get one shot at this life. They didn't even have that old excuse everyone uses, "I stayed for the kids." It seems like at some point the couple would wake up to reality and think about what a waste their lives were. And that they may have missed out on a chance for a happy life and marriage with their best friends and true companionship rather than convenience. The husband has a maid and the wife has a financier. The husband doesn't have to clean or cook and the wife quit working a shortly after they were married but is that a good trade off; it seems so shallow and compromising. It broke my heart but I think love and loving takes a lot of balls; it is a huge gamble putting your faith in yourself and someone else. When I related the tale to Ronni she thought it was the saddest story she had ever heard. When I was talking to Marty about it this morning, he said he thinks each person is getting what they want out of the marriage so it works for them and apparently works better than some marriages based on love. He reminded me that lots of marriages based on love don't last very long. I said well, that may be true but at least those people had the courage to take a shot at having something fulfilling and real rather than prostituting themselves. I told him that I think I am a little naive about things like that because I want to be with my best friend not some guy who the right job or good investments. For some reason, we started talking about Natalie his ex. He said he doesn't he want to love someone like that again. I told him he is not willing to put himself out there then. And he said he hasn't met that many women he had strong enough feelings for or attraction to that he was willing to put himself out there. I haven't met many men I was truly attracted and I haven't met any men I respected after I got to know them but I am still willing to keep sifting through the left overs (that's mostly what/who is out there at my age, some guy who spent his best years with someone else and has luggage, which includes child support, maybe two mortgages or alimony, years of whatever caused the demise of the marriage, kids who are always pissed their parents got divorced no matter how crappy the marriage was because the world revolves around them, etc.

I'm done writing for a bit and as usual I'm not going to edit. I need to get someone else to do that!!!

Quick read that would be helpful to men

http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/2014/05/women-six-sexuality-facts-may-surprise-men/

The best thing about being single

One of the best things about not being married:

I don't worry about my husband cheating on me. It seems like a lot of people who are married are worried that their spouses are cheating on them. And it seems like every man I talk to says his wife cheated on him. First, I don't think it's any of my business. Second, that is not a turn on at all. Third, the cheating may have been a reaction or symptom of a crappy marriage.

Every other Friday

My supervisor and I are going to alternate taking Fridays off. If we do maybe I can get back to my MANglish translations. I'd like to do some more research. And the vlogs were fun. When I asked Tater to do a vlog he had to decline because of his job... I forwarded an email to him so he could get up to speed. I was trying to send him clean answers from someone. I chose to forward an email from Ron thinking they were good ones that weren't vulgar. Tater said he couldn't believe what a male chauvinist the guy who wrote the email is. Of course that wasn't the first time I heard some negative comments about Ron but I thought Ron may have been trying to be funny, clever or get his message across to me personally because I used to have a crush on him. Back when I had a crush on him a couple of my friends didn't like him at all. My friend, Beth, thought he was cocky. But when she gave me an example of his cockiness I had not had the same reaction to his behavior but everyone perceives things differently. At the time I remember thinking how it was peculiar that two people could see and hear the same exact thing and have completely different opinions.

Flirting

A property owner who is building an apartment complex keeps flirting with me. I haven't even met him. So far our exchanges have been emails and phone conversations but he made it very clear yesterday that he is interested in me. Of course I don't know what he looks like either. And he lives in Detroit but comes to Texas frequently since he has business here. I don't know if he realizes that it's inappropriate for me to date and socialize with people whose projects I am managing. 

Coworker

One of my coworkers was telling me how he met his wife online and they started dating. It was long distance at first, 8 hours one way. He said it was awful having to travel so much every weekend. And he had to stay upbeat about the whole thing because the distance made her have some doubts but it ended up working out for them. I think the met on eHarmony but it may have been Match. What he didn't tell me was if he was already divorced when they met.

Workout partner

I need a workout partner. My old supervisor said we can walk and talk on the phone at the same time. 

Spouses

I've noticed people who are married think that their spouses have to tolerate anything they dish out.

Romantic

I've decided I need to be more romantic.

Thought

I've been there 100% of the time for a friend because he is having some terrible problems with his marriage.

Movie

I really liked A Long Way Down. Watch it.

Skeletons

Discussing skeletons in the closet with my old supervisor; he says everyone has them.

Decent hour

I'm home at a decent hour;-)

A Long Way Down

I worked from 6 to 6 and was very happy to be home at a decent hour and I'm watching A Long Way Down. It may be good, the guy who was the character, Jesse, in Breaking Bad is one of the actors in it. Jesse was the character I liked in Breaking Bad.

Finally

Home from work and ready for zzz

This might be interesting

http://www.ted.com/talks/diane_kelly_what_we_didn_t_know_about_penis_anatomy

Marty thinks this guy has sent this same message to one thousand women including me

each time i move away from what i think am seeing and i just cant explain what it mean to love until i found a cold part of my breath,what i saw is rainbow deep inside your face my world ,and your profile as i woke up to my computer this morning,i really wounder how this would have mean to you?..having such an angel like human in this physical world.i was lost in the wilderness for years now,searching for my rainbow,but thank God you brought me back to life.This must be love,am not searching no more.will appreciate your reply.

Saturday night

It's a good night to catch up with family and friends.

No followers

I don't have any followers so I wonder who reads these posts. The information I see makes it appear that people in the U.S., France, India, Poland, Germany, Canada and a couple of other places view my posts but I don't know if they're the same people viewing or new people. Initially, I started the post because it's an easy way to keep writings for my book ideas (Good Enough for Government Work and MANglish: What Men Are Really Saying) but I've continued to post some even though I haven't really had a lot of time to do more interviews for the MANglish book lately. I need to get back on track. I want to do some more vlogs too. I think it would be fun if I got some contributions from men whom I don't know maybe online. Maybe I could get some of my friends to make some vlogs for me and send them to me. It would be even better if men asked me some questions about the SHEnglish women use. 

Done chatting

Marty just went to bed. He has the oddest hours. I don't know if it's because he has been a stand up comedian his entire adult life or he would have crazy hours anyway but it seems like no matter what time I call he is up. It's nice that I have someone to talk to almost anytime. Occasionally, he'll be unavailable but it's rare. While we were talking, he told me that he's been talking and connecting with this new woman he met online as he described her there seemed to be some similarities to a few of the other women he knows and has met (some he met online). She doesn't work and that's been the case with a couple of women he's met. She writes and that has been the case with other women he's met. They either write or aspire to write or be creative in some way. She has some physical issue and that has been the case with every woman he has met except for one. The one woman he met who isn't sick all the time lives too far away. Marty said she was too far away (two hours) to start a relationship with. But then he ended up having sex with her anyway, SEVERAL TIMES, and apparently it was pretty good sex since he went back for more. He kept telling her that he didn't want to get involved with her since she lived too far away. Then she told him she was probably going to get back with her ex since he wasn't willing to have a long distance relationship with her. I asked him if he thought that was true or a cloaked ultimatum. Marty said he didn't know and he didn't think it mattered because he wasn't willing to get more involved with her. Marty felt really bad about having sex with the woman since he knew from the get go he didn't want to go to the trouble of having a long distance relationship but the chemistry go the best of him. And, I think he did get caught up in the excitement of the texting and emails and such. Those flirtatious texts and emails really tend to suck you in when you first meet someone whether it's online or not. Plus, Marty said the woman really woke up some feelings in him and he was drawn to her (I call that feeling "horny"). When I asked if Marty had been communicating with her still and what was going on with since the ultimatum he said she was going to hang out with her ex last night so I guess maybe she is thinking about getting back with him or wants Marty to think so. he said he thinks she really is considering getting back with her ex because she's lonely and wants to be with someone. What is surprising to me is that Marty keeps meeting women. And they seem to be interested in him which he doesn't seem grateful for at all. He just takes it for granted that he will continue to meet women and they'll be interested. I'm usually really positive and consider myself an optimistic realist but I don't know that I'll meet someone again and if I don't it's not the end of the world; my friends and family are the most important people to me. I also don't have this innate feeling that if/when I meet someone, he'll like me and feel the same chemistry and attachment and desires that I'm feeling. The last time I met someone it wasn't the case that the man had any interest in me as relationship material and I didn't know if i would want a long term relationship with him or not since we didn't see each other very long or very often but he did seem like a nice guy. I'm always in awe of those people who have the faith that they'll meet someone. I am just not sure if the optimistic or delusional... 

Amazng

Marty has met another woman online. I'm amazed that he keeps meeting women. Maybe he's using my account and the women think he's a lesbian.

Marty

I've been so busy I haven't been able to talk to him much so I called this morning. I knew he would be up, It's still last night to him. It's so nice to get to chat.

Decision

I'm trying to decide if I am going to go in and work for a few hours today or tomorrow. There is so much work to do right now. I would like to be able to see some light at the end of the tunnel. The time flies when I am at work, I usually don't even finish a cup of coffee and don't really get a lunch break...

Reunion

Llast night, I saw a coworker from Corpus, Kris. He grew up in Seabrook and moved back here a couple of months before me. I ate dinner with Kris and his father. It was nice to see a familiar face. Kris was a hard worker and a smart young man, I enjoyed working with him in Corpus so it was great to hang out. His girlfriend was working so she couldn't join us but I'm hoping to see her soon. After we ate, we went for a drink at Cabo. There's a huge deck overlooking the water. It's so nice to be close to the water again.

Happy

Saturday

Seabrook

Went out in Seabrook for dinner and a drink, at last.

Long day

It would be nice to have a beer.

Conversation with Tator

Tator and I were in a discussion Wednesday and he stated that he believes men and women can't be friends if the have had sex. I'm hoping to run into him today so he can explain his logic behind his statement. I told him I think it's hard if one or both still have feelings for each other that go beyond a desire to be friends. It's hard to accept that someone is not attracted to you and can cause some turmoil but I don't think anyone purposefully is not attracted someone. When a man has been attracted to me and I didn't feel that way about him I couldn't do anything about. I couldn't make myself be attracted to him. It's not something that anyone can control. It would be so much easier if attraction and chemistry was something that could be harnessed and directed. In the recent past, I was very attracted to someone, of course I didn't know if it would go anywhere and the opportunity to find out didn't present itself since we didn't live near each other but he didn't feel the same way about me. There's no way I could blame him since he could not force himself to be attracted to me even if he wanted to be. 

Working

I've been working for an hour already. I've been editing the minutes from the last Planning and Zoning Commission meeting. The meeting included an agenda item that is a very ethereal concept which prompted a lot of discussion and confusion so editing the minutes is arduous.

Some more of Tator's MANglish Translations

Tator,

If you say to a woman, "Let's just be friends." what does that mean?

Shelby

Shel,

I like you, but there is no romantic attraction for me; OR there is, but I can’t pursue it because I’m married, because of my religious convictions, or for whatever reason I don’t want or can’t pursue a deeper relationship.  Again, I’m different, if I was attracted, but can’t pursue because I’m married and religiously, I try to lead a different life – that’s what I’d say.  I’ve been down the road of attracted and wanting to pursue – and have learned nothing but trouble, heartache, and pain comes from that.  I’m flawed like most people I know …. For me, it’s learning from the flaw and not repeating.

Tator

Busy

I am busy all the time at work. I feel so much more productive. Thank goodness I had the opportunity to change jobs.

Tator's MANglish Translations Cont'd

Tator,


If you say you're looking for an independent woman what does that mean in MANglish?

S

Shel, 

A woman who is self-sufficient, can stand on her own, and can make her own decisions.  I’m not threatened by a woman making more money than me, or having skills that are better than mine.  This is not a sexual remark to me.

T

Some more MANglish from Tator

Tator,

If you tell a woman you'll take her somewhere that you would not typically go e.g., a Barbie Convention, antiquing, etc. what does that mean? 

S

Shelby,

If I knew that’s what the person liked to do, I’d be saying your desire and interests are important to me, and I’ll go to make you happy.  I’m assuming the event is not a sexually oriented event.  I don’t like antiquing, but I take my wife because I know it makes her happy.

T

Tator's MANglish Translation

Tator,


If you were to tell a woman that you are available to her if she needs anything what are you really saying? 

Thanks,

Shelby

Shelby,

I would try not to say “anything” because most women will interpret that as sexually intended from a man.   If I used that sentence exactly as stated, I would not be meaning sex (if that was the case I would say so), I would mean any kind of help I could provide.

Tator

Sunrise

It's almost sunrise. This is my favorite time of day. Every morning, I think, "Here's my chance to make a difference."

Conversation

I decided I need to have a conversation with my friend and explain that I'm not done grieving my last pseudo relationship yet and I think he is reaching out to me because I am his friend. If he needs to talk I always listen to him. If he asks for advice I give it. If he needs a friend I'm there. I'm always nice to him. All the things he says his wife is not and has not been so thinking we have a future is just because we're such good friends. In his defense, he has not put any moves on me. He has put himself out there and made it clear that if I will consider it he wants to pursue a future with me. And in my defense, I have never been anything but a friend to him. I have never even hinted at us getting together. I am not interested in trying to steal someone's husband. I did think I like to work on being in a healthy relationship and possible marriage but not to someone else's husband. 

Yoga

Lunch yoga was so intense yesterday. I am sore.

Early morning

It's always feels so peaceful early in the morning. The sun is coming up and it's a beautiful sunrise. 

Joe's last date

Joe had a date with a woman he met on Coffee Meets Bagel. They tested a bunch before the date and of course the excitement of an upcoming date and the chance that he might meet the girl of dreams had him walking on cloud nine and he was texting me for SHEnglish translations. The next day or so after the date, the woman texted Joe; it read, I had a great time but I just got out of a relationship and I thought I was ready to move on and now I know I'm not. Sorry. I told him, she may have been telling the truth or maybe she wasn't attracted to him. Either way, she's not interested in him. 

Revelation

Lately, I was a little frustrated with myself because a man made it quite clear to me he wants a future with me. I've examined myself and could not understand why I am not interested. I kept going over things in my head and thought why wouldn't I be attracted to a kind man who admires me and is available rather than being heart broken over a man who was not available and gave me many repeatedly told me things weren't going to work out. Then I realized that my admirer isn't really available either. Though I have never encouraged him to have any feelings for me other than friendship, he said he is getting a divorce and thinks we have a future together. I am not sure why I didn't see it all along but the other day I had an epiphany and told Vivi that it's ridiculous to beat myself up because I can't make myself fall for this seemingly available guy because I still feel like someone ripped my heart out of my chest when he is married to  someone else so he is not available. 

30 views of old post

The other day, 30 people (in France) viewed one of my old posts from June 27th. It was Marty's comment on online dating profiles of men on OKCupid. Marty and i thought it was kind of strange that a bunch of people in France would read a post out of the clear blue sky.

Escort

On the way to the San Antonio airport.

Hocus Pocus

My favorite Halloween movie is Hocus Pocus.

Green Shooting Star

This morning, I saw a shooting star that was greenish for the first time. It lasted a long time so I made a wish.

pretty

yummmmmmmm

Another Halloween photo at work

Moving

The moving has begun.