Yesterday

I met with a man who needed some guidance. He is moving to the area so he can be close to the hospital while his son is being treated for cancer. It reminded just how lucky I am.

Shaped like a penis

My girlfriend told me that a lot of complaints have been coming into Corpus Christi, Development Services about the Schlitterbahn project because a building or something looks like a penis. What a hoot.

Different life

One year ago today, my life was completely different;

I've changed jobs twice,
moved to two different cities,
started to work on my MANglish,
gained two friends,
lost one friend,
gained 10 lbs,
lost 10 lbs,
gained 10 lbs,
put faith in someone I shouldn't have,
survived a broken heart,

happy with one corner in my new apt

Just married

My friends just got married and they are so happy. Now, they wonder why they didn't do it a long time ago. Both of them said it does feel different and better though they didn't think it it would feel different. I am happy because they are happy. 

The Blacklist

I stayed up very late, especially for me, last night and finished Desperate Housewives. One of the best things about Desperate Housewives, besides it reminding me of my gal pal, Jill, is that it makes me feel so much better about stupid stuff I do. The stupid things I've done don't compare to the shenanigans those women pulled. Though it's fiction, there is usually some truth in things people write. As the old saying goes, truth is stranger than fiction.

Since I finished Desperate Housewives I started watching The Blacklist. I'm hoping that I like as much as I am worried about getting addicted to it. It seems like I have gotten addicted to so many programs on Netflix over the last seven or eight months. I watched Breaking Bad, Orange Is The New Black, Drop Dead Diva, Mixology, Lie To Me, those are the ones I remember off the top of my head.

I wish I had bought Netflix stock back in 2004 when I started using it. I am holding out hope for my Medbox and Hemp stock though. Not that I am not enjoying my retirement for what it is. Going back to school to earn my master's and becoming a city planner is my retirement from the hospitality industry but it would sure be nice to make a crap load of money on my stocks. Or I would like to make enough to pay my taxes this year. I'm afraid I will owe taxes again this year. I made $6,000.00 on my Medbox stock this year so I'm trying to prepare for the it. 

Romantic Horoscope

I get all these emails that are different kind of horoscopes; Chinese, Tarot, Romantic. I opened the Romantic Horoscope for today and it said something about too many cooks in the kitchen and doing a project alone. I thought it was pretty funny because I do every project alone. If I depended on other people I'd never get anything done. Most of the time I haven't even been able to get any type of support whatsoever. When I wanted to go to college, my family made fun of me, when I joined the Army my family thought I was crazy, when I got pregnant everyone said I couldn't raise a child by myself...If it wasn't for the faith I have in myself I would not have accomplished the little I have. Fortunately, I'm stubborn and didn't listen to naysayers. I wish I had that kind of stamina about everything but it's not parsed equally it is applied to certain aspects of my life only. That is probably why I end up doing all my projects alone. I have applied staying power and stamina to love and commitment of one person to form a partnership. I'll have to work on that someday.

More Brain Pickings (Space)

http://www.brainpickings.org/2014/09/23/professor-astro-cats-frontiers-of-space-book/

Link to a great article about happiness

http://www.brainpickings.org/2014/09/22/a-life-worth-living-albert-camus/

Allergies story

http://news.yahoo.com/dr--martin-blaser-researches-link-between-food-allergies-in-children-and-antibiotics-111302595.html

Jill

I've been watching Desperate Housewives on Netflix. Jill and I used to watch it when I was in grad school. Between that and shopping last weekend it's been making me miss Jill so much. Tonight, I went to Waffle House and ordered the same breakfast I used to eat with Jill. It was excellent but it would have been much better if Jill was here to share a meal with me. 

Marty and me

When Marty and I were talking about his journal, he told me he is different than he was when he was dating and writing in the journal out in L.A. He said he used to want to be with someone and part of a family and now, he doesn't know if he wants that anymore. Then he said maybe that's not true because he got very attached to this girl he met on OKCupid. And I reminded him that she wasn't really available and the woman who does make herself available to him, he doesn't want. I made the comment that maybe he wanted the OKCupid girl because she wasn't available and he doesn't want the other woman because she is. I told him the last time I went on a date it was with someone I met on OKCupid too and he was not available to me. I said I wondered if he and I are afraid of being in a real relationship with someone so we go for people of the opposite sex who are not available and so we set ourselves up for failure from the get go and that way we don't get hurt as badly as we would if we were vested in people who are truly vested in us. It's not the people we choose to be interested in who are unavailable it's us.

Being chastised

Marty chastised me for blogging and then failing to edit the blogs at some point. I'll admit I have not gone to the trouble to edit and I should.

Meat

The other day, my mom told me she thought of this guy I went out with a couple of times around one year ago. She was watching The Doctors and they brought up vegans who go overboard or get obsessed with it and get sick. She said that topic made he think of that guy because he was a vegan and had a couple of episodes because he drank too much water. He even ended up in the hospital once. I don't know why that guy would enter her mind that was quite a while back and we only went on a few dates since we lived several hours away from each other. Now every time I talk to her she brings up me eating more meat. She thinks I'm not healthy.

Journal

This morning, I found out that Marty has been keeping a journal. I have known him for over twenty years and never knew he had a journal. He said he was reading it and couldn't believe how many times his heart has been broken. he said he met many women whom he thought were the one. Then things went south and he would feel terrible. I told him when you are a serial dater it's like getting divorced over and over again. 

Laundry

I did laundry at a laundromat for the first time in about two decades today. It wasn't as bad as I thought it might be but the whole time I was doing my laundry a young, beautiful Asian woman with two young children was hitting on a an old white guy.  

Contemporary

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/24/middlebrow-selfie_n_5875906.html

I'm feeling spoiled

After the hair appointment, a manicure and pedicure I went shopping. I bought seven pairs of shoes for $154.00--the shoes were 79% off--so I chose the perfect time to shop. I felt a little guilty because I don't need anything but I am working on being more self oriented. Marty and I had a big discussion about how empty life is once the people you nurture and provide for move on; that's what prompted his comment that he could tolerate me, which I doubt since Marty has a tolerance deficiency. His tolerance deficiency is the one thing he had in common with his baby mama-the worst character trait any two people could share--no wonder things didn't go anywhere with them. Anyway back to the tolerance and looking for someone who has the ability to tolerate you; I don't know if I'll find anyone who could could manage it but I am not going to go around feeling unfulfilled because I don't have someone to do things for. I am going to do things just for me e.g., use the french press to make my coffee not just coffee for guests; it's so much better. I told Marty that I don't really understand it but I have always to do things for other people and help other people--I did go on hiatus when I was a teenager but that's typical, I think--maybe that's why I became a city planner.  

Hooters for Sooner football

I couldn't think of anywhere else to go besides Hooters to watch OU football last night. Most of the waitresses had big butts and weren't nearly as pretty as they used to be. I attribute it to the economy being so good here. When the economy was terrible in Oklahoma, the strip clubs were full of gorgeous i.e., the women/girls looked like movie stars, educated women. It was incredible but there were no other jobs available.

Also, I was seated next to two guys who were obviously regulars e.g., every girl knew who they were, one guy was obviously terribly lonely and had some money, and I'll stop there because it was pretty pathetic.

And, once again I'll iterate that I an sick of the growing popularity of fat asses and cougars. The fat asses were just gross... But it's the cougar part that getting on my nerves. When I went to Hooters, I made sure I didn't even fix my hair, I had on yoga pants with a tank top and a long sleeve white shirt over it. I was not showing any leg or cleavage (boob or butt). After a while, I noticed this young guy with a glass of red wine--guys are supposed to drink beer rather than be all pretentious and wine connoisseury--looking at me. The young guy approached me and started up a conversation by asking what game I was watching. Turned out he's working on his Bachelors degree in, of all places Corpus Christi. That means that more than likely the guy was younger than my son. It's not the first time some young has propositioned me. It's a compliment I guess but when I think of all the 300 lb women in Wal Mart dragging around three, four or five kids all the while screaming at the little monsters whom all are the product of different baby daddies, it seems like I am at the bottom of the food chain. I think I'm going to purchase a tee shirt that says, "I'm not Mrs. Robinson".

I like change but I am wondering what the heck is going on with all the women going for these younger men. Men have had that affliction for some time or maybe always but women going for these guys who could be there sons is a new phenomenon that baffles me. All the years of witnessing the troubles of men who chose to trade in wife number one for wife number two who was a newer model, it seems that women women would be smarter and avoid putting themselves through the torture, examples follow: the younger partner will want children (YIKES!!! It's off to the fertility clinic.); the older partner becomes unattractive since most old people aren't that cute (and it's a different kind of cute); the older partner is going to need her/his diaper changed, and these are just a few. If I ever go on a date again rest assured, it will be a date with an age appropriate man.

This is a better picture of my hair

The sweetest thing

Marty said the sweetest thing to me earlier. He told me that he could definitely be with me. Of course, he said that because I said I couldn't imagine the guy who could put up with me since I'm not the typical woman. When he said he could put up with me I told him that it's just because he's my friend and he loves me. He said he'd rather be with someone he knows and loves. I told him I agree because it seems like too much of an investment to spend time getting to know a stranger. Its a major investment of time and sometimes emotion. Then he had to bring up me having no pubic hair and not wanting to have sex with him and the moment was gone.

OU Football

I'm watching OU play West Virginia @ Hooters

Wait, Wait Don't Tell Me

When I was driving today, Wait, Wait Don't Tell Me was on NPR. They were talking about a recent poll and most women would rather date a guy with a gut than a six pack. Women said men with gut is more interesting. Guys who work out all the time have little or nothing to talk about. 

Lingerie

Once again, I bought lingerie. I was thinking of the old saying, throwing good money after bad. I still have lingerie hanging on the hanger that has never been worn. I found the cutest white lace nightie. I used to wear lingerie just for heck of it just like I wear perfume even when I'm home alone. I guess I need to start doing that again. I've been working on doing stuff for me not anyone else. Maybe I can read On The Road, Nick, my son, wants me to read it in my white lace nightie and smell myself. I do love Chanel No 5 whether anyone else is around to enjoy it with me or not. Of course, these days some people wear lingerie out on the town. My son says it's hard to tell the nice girls from the sluts since such provocative clothing is in style. Nick says he wants to meet a girl who is not a religious fanatic or some girl who tells him in conversation that she takes X and has had sex every time she has taken it. He says that he can't help but be a numbers guy and maybe that's wrong but he doesn't want to go out with a girl who has had sex with an large number of guys. Maybe all guys are like that. I remember a guy I dated who was ugly mentioning how many women he had had sex with. Then he asked me how many people I had had sex with. I responded that I didn't know but a lot more than him. He nearly dropped dead. That's when I figured out that you can't share everything. Mike, my ex, said he felt like someone kicked him in the gut when I said that. And I told him he shouldn't have asked if he didn't want to know the truth and he was ugly and I'm not. Strangely, I just heard about a study at UT that found ugly people have more sex than attractive people. Basically, I think it boiled down to the ugly people not being as picky as the attractive people.

Vow

I recently vowed to never drink with men unless they're ugly. It's so much safer that way. The vodka/red bull incident inspired the vow. There's nothing like first hand experience to really learn a good lesson. Commandment 1. DO NOT DRINK WITH HANDSOME MEN TO WHOM YOU'RE ATTRACTED.

Epiphany

Since my horoscope said I need some excitement I have been trying to think of what that might be, especially since I am supposed to be in Boston right now for a girl's weekend. I still think it would be along the same lines as my idea of porn: A hot guy volunteers to do my laundry or at least, help; no ball huggers though, he could help in his boxers;-)

The Other Woman

Thursday, I stood in the rain and rented The Other Woman. I've already seen it with Vivi and Becky so I knew I was picking a winner; I laughed out loud when I saw it in the theater. When I got home I was exhausted so I planned to watch it Friday after my hair appointment. When I looked for the movie I couldn't remember where I put so I looked around without success so I went to Dillards. It was packed at the Baybrook Mall. Much of the news I hear is doom and gloom and one of the main topics of most segments is just how bad the economy still is and worries about inflation but there is no indication that the economy is bad here whatsoever. The economy is booming here. 

Missing Marty

Marty went to L.A. for a big get together with all his basketball buddies and I have really been missing him. Right before he left I was really trying to make sure I was available for him and checking in with him since he and his latest fling had ended things. He said the worst part about a break up is that all the dreams you had for some future with the other person are gone so you feel lost and lonely because you have nothing to look forward to. That's so sad. I think Marty is right. It feel like such a loss when you think of your life without someone you thought would be there. It makes it difficult to get through the day knowing tomorrow is going to be what you wanted either. 

Today's horoscope

I read my horoscope again today and it said that I need some excitement; forget work. Oddly, I was thinking about working today. I thought it might be easier to do some text amendments at home than at work since we are always swamped. But I don't usually work Saturdays. So it's odd that my horoscope would mention working at all. As for excitement, last time I had some excitement my coochie hurt for seven days. The worst part was I had no recollection of what happened. I came to the conclusion I can't drink vodka/red bull. It makes my coochie hurt.

Big day off

After getting my hair done, I took a nap which is something I don't usually get to do. Then I had a manicure and a pedicure. it was nice. I don't usually get manicures and pedicures. They an extravagance I don't go for but I decided to do it for myself especially since the other time I got a mani/pedi it was because I had a date so that was really for someone else not myself. I want to start doing  more things for me not for someone else but I don't want to become super self centered like the guy who kissed his own arm while we were having sex. That was so weird. And has to be the most self absorbed thing I have ever seen anyone do.

Scored

I scored today at Dillards. I got a suit 65% off plus another 40% off. 

Wedding day

Vivi got over her marriage phobia and married Becky today.

Horoscope

Today, I was thinking it would be great to do laundry tonight. Then, I read my horoscope and it said something like I am so hot for my guy that I should put off doing laundry and spend some quality time with him. And it reminded me of my idea of porn. My idea of porn is; a guy shows up at my house and vacuums for me or says let me help you do laundry or he says he wants to help me do housework. The funny thing is that the girl who did my hair today said that that is her idea of porn. She even mentioned vacuuming specifically. I thought it was so funny that she has the same exact idea of porn as me. So it would have been great if my horoscope said something like try to find someone to spend some quality time with while doing mundane chores.It so much better to do things like laundry or vacuuming with someone or to have someone to do those things for. I enjoyed making a home for my son and miss those days. Life is all about the little things. 

Finally, when I asked to have my hair cut off someone listened

Done with OKCupid

Thought it was entertaining at times, I am taking a break from OKCupid. 

A day off

I have a three day weekend. Yippie!!!

OKCupid

I don't understand how 427 men could like me on OKCupid and I haven't dated someone in three years and two weeks. Yikes!!! Am I being too picky?

Fabian's MANglish

Hats r a must on a misty day

Packed too quickly

Galleria

Staying by the Galleria; I feel my Chanel coming on.

Happy Saturday

Yummy night at Miyako on Friday

South Texas

It's a beautiful morning here

Having a beer & hanging out

James & I hanging out talking about SHEnglish

The moon

If you can check out the moon tonight. It's glorious.

I could have used this about a year ago

http://www.singleswarehouse.co.uk/2014/09/tips-for-making-a-long-distance-relationship-work/

Louis CK

Watching Louis CK always reminds me of Jose my adopted son from the Regional and City Planning Master's program. Jose loved the show.

Drunk sex

If it wasn't for a sore coochie there would be no evidence of the drunk sex or maybe it's a different coochie and the original was still back at so and so's house with the black cowboy hat that was one of a multitude of hat purchases usually made on trips for a souvenir. It's just that the sore coochie feels like someone else's so the only explanation is that it is someone else's coochie, a stranger's. Of course the explanations are numerous since all memory is illusive due to one too many vodka/Redbulls.

Mean girls

Why do men bend over backwards for mean girls? Vivi says she thinks it's the whole challenge thing. She says some men need a challenge and that's why they don't like nice girls. 

Vivi says a Manglish Dictionary is needed

After drunk sex, a guy texts the woman that he usually doesn't do that with friends, Lol. Vivi says she has no idea what that means and a Manglish Dictionary is needed to translate. 

Same goes for men

http://www.singleswarehouse.co.uk/2014/03/top-5-singles-chat-mistakes/

Auntie Fee link

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_Q2CkNSioDmiyeGTe5qq1g

These photos remind me of Thisbe and Mark's photos

http://www.bbc.com/news/business-28956310?ocid=socialflow_twitter

Supermodel looks and men

http://www.singleswarehouse.co.uk/2014/04/do-men-only-like-supermodel-looks/

Morning

The sunrise was great this morning.

Guilt

For a few weeks, I felt terrible guilty because I could tell my friend was falling for me and that I won't be able to fall for him. And then Marty, Viviana and Becky told me that it's not possible to control who you fall in love with and there's no reason to feel bad about it. I have been pondering it and think they are right but I still feel bad about it for some reason. It did give me some perspective about things. When I was seeing someone and he seemed to go back and forth with regard to me maybe he had the same feelings about me as I have for my friend. Maybe the guy would like to fall for me but couldn't that's why he kept doing the old come here, go away thing that screws with ones head and heart. Of course I could be giving the guy to much credit. It could have been that he liked me a lot more if he was horny so he did the old come here thing and if he wasn't horny he did the old go away thing.

Staying connected to Marty

While talking to Marty this morning and discussing our issues with the opposite sex we both fessed up that we are hopeless with regard to any control over our attractions. Marty has been pining away for some time because over a woman who is not available. There is no way they can be together. Life is so short it seems like such a waste to wish for something that can never be. But both of us realize that we can't change whom we like. Some people can. Or at least they put up a good front. I've seen plenty of women go for some guy because he had a lot of money and could provide stability. I asked Marty if he could go for a woman because had money and he said no, And I know there is no way I could date someone or marry someone because he had money. Sometimes, I think of Olympia Dukakis in Moonstruck and remember when she asked Cher if she loved her fiance. Cher replied that she didn't and Olympia said, "Good." She explained that is so much easier if you don't love someone. But who said life was ever going to be easy or fair or any of that? 

Trying to break up

My friend tried to break up with the woman he was seeing and every time she would cry so he kept sticking around though she wasn't treating him all that well and she wasn't meeting his expectations in spite of how low they were. Finally, he called it quits for good. She contacted him via text a couple (even stating that she loved him) of times and he didn't reply. Then she emailed. Later she called. He said some things that he feels terrible about now. When he was telling me about it, I said that I thought he shouldn't feel guilty or bad because if she had just left things alone then he wouldn't have said all the things he's feeling so bad about. He said he feels like he sabotaged the relationship by saying those things and that he said things that would end everything with her and there would be no getting back together because of his actions. I told him that I don't think that is sabotage when he was trying to end it but she kept dangling a carrot in front of him every time he tried to break up with her. She didn't offer anything up to him unless he did try to pull away because she had been treating him like crap for four or five months. She is one of those people who only want you when you don't want them. Losing someone like that is not a loss.

Woman trouble

My guy friends have nothing but woman trouble right now. One has too many women after never having too many women interested in him ever. My other friend was dating two women but both relationships ended badly. Another woman got his attention and when he arrived at her house when invited she was on the phone. Once she hung up the phone, she told him that she had been waiting on that phone call for fourteen years.  The call was from the love of her life who is divorced and looked her up.