Sunday, August 31, 2014
My bestie, Marty
The other day, Marty said to me, "You're a better girlfriend to me than my girlfriend and you're not my girlfriend. We talk about everything. You check on me. I'm sick of it." He broke up with her after that. Since then she has tried to make contact with him and even texted him, "I love you". Why is it that when people think you don't want them anymore they're intrigued and try to get you back? Maybe she didn't have plan "B" lined up yet. It seems like people are always really ready to truly move on when they have someone else to move with and focus all their attention on. It's that old the grass is always greener theory. But I know of several people whose exes have later told them it was a mistake and they didn't know what they had when they had it and the grass isn't always greener. There are weeds, it needs mowed, while trying to weed eat the string keeps breaking. It's strange to me that people seem so ready to throw in the towel thinking there is someone else better for them instead of thinking they're lucky they found someone who will tolerate their bullshit shenanigans since once you get to know someone it's a weird dichotomy because of their eccentricities that make them who they are. It seems that today people don't really feel lucky when someone is willing to tolerate them. It seems like they feel entitled to it and like it's no big deal that someone is willing to put up with their crap and look for the good in them.
Too many women
One of my friends kept saying he wasn't ready to date or be in a relationship. He used my OKCupid account to do some online shopping and then registered with the site. In the mean time, he kept running into women he had known in the past and started seeing one of them and then one more. So now he is seeing two women.Sometimes he has dates with both of them in the same day. He seems a little over worked. I asked why he just doesn't pick one of them and move forward with a relationship. He said he can't right now. Both women have qualities he likes but he thinks deep down he isn't ready for a relationship. I said, "You must be or you wouldn't be dating." It could be as simple as neither one is the ONE.
Eternal optimist
My former supervisor is always telling me that I am an eternal optimist because I always think things are going to get better. But I had an epiphany Friday. There are times when you should say, "I'm done". When you realize you are always making concessions, just say, "I'm done". If you realize that someone is one of those people you're always making excuses for, just say, "I'm done". If someone says they're your friend but you're the one who makes the effort, just say, "I'm done". If you realize you're always doing the heavy lifting, just say, "I'm done". And, if someone says that they're not really good at being friends you should believe it and say, "I'm done". After all it's so much more rewarding to be friends with people who realize that you are a good friend and appreciate you rather than those people who think you're their friend because they're great not because you're great. One of my good qualities is my undying loyalty to friends but it's something I don't want to give to everyone.
Saturday, August 30, 2014
Illusive/distant people
Trying to date or be friends with illusive/distant people is like being on a job interview. It's so much work that it's just not worth it. It's too hard to try to say all the right things all the time and perform all the time.
Thursday, August 28, 2014
Saturday, August 23, 2014
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