David sent me a link to the online profile of a woman. Prior to asking me to give her a look, he said she has big boobs and I don't like that. I said, "Well you always say that you have a big nose. What if she doesn't like big noses? And you're bald. Some women don't like bald guys. You can't just dismiss someone because of something physical that she can't change. That's kind of superficial." I looked at her profile and she is very attractive." Then he said, "She has a pretty face and I like her hair cut." And I said, "Me too. I think she's very pretty. Why are you hesitating because of her boob size?" He followed with, "I know big boobs are in high demand but unlike most men I don't like them, especially if they're saggy. No men like saggy boobs though." Then I said, "There were all kinds of things I didn't necessarily find attractive about the last guy I dated but they were not deal breakers. It's not like you do anything about it if you have ugly feet. Or if someone's body isn't perfect or the exact kind of body you're attracted to you don't just dismiss them. No one is perfect. The last guy I dated had nice hands." Of course, David said, "Nice hands?!" I said "Yes. I liked his hands." David said, "There's not really anything you can say about a guy that is equivalent to the big boobs thing." I said, "Yes there is. The guys penis or balls. The last two guys I have dated didn't have great looking genitalia. One of them had a penis that pointed down. It was so disheartening. There was no way to have sex that wasn't painful. The other said something about his penis not being all that big (which is always annoying and big penises can be dangerous; the man I married was very handsome but his penis was too big) and it wasn't too small or anything but it was not very attractive , the thing that was really weird is that he had kind of small balls and one all but disappeared. He didn't even mention that his balls were weird though." David said, "Really?" I said, "Yes. And in both cases I didn't dismiss the people because of something physical. There are plenty of things about me that aren't perfect. At this time in my life, I am adjusting to looking better in clothes. I used to look better naked. A relationship based on nothing but appearance/physical attributes that's not going to last. Everyone is saying they want to be with their best friends these days. Don't you?" David said, "I don't know if I want to be with anyone right now."
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