jokes

Tonight, I got to write some jokes with Marty for his gig in Pennsylvania. It was fun and he was grateful for my help. I enjoyed the creative process.

Nana & Papa

Maybe it is just me but I find it so annoying when men use Nana and Papa and other names for the grandparents of their children, especially when you don't know the children or the grandparents. Why don't they call grandparents, grandmother or grandma and grandfather or grandpa? I don't think it is cute or endearing it's almost as annoying as baby talk which makes me feel nauseated. 

60 year old dip shit on OKCupid (looking for 25 to 40 year old sexual freak)

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Educated older gentleman looking ONLY for fun. I'm not looking for a wife or wifey material. I want a closet freak to try and enjoy new sexual things my ex-wife would not do. Come out, come out where ever you are. I'm good looking and fit. Pictures sent to personal email only.

Communication

Marty wants me to work on lack of communication as communication. When one of his long term girlfriends wanted to break up with him instead of telling him she stopped returning calls, etc. He figured out that she wanted to avoid any type of confrontation so she just stopped all communication which was communication. It was very unhealthy but she got her message across. That was her way of letting him know she was done. It was the first time anyone had ever used that tactic but it worked by saying nothing at all she said all she needed to say. 

Jealousy

The last time I had a long term relationship, the man was jealous. Marty said he was jealous because he was the type to cheat (and did cheat). Marty is not the only man to tell me that lately. Every one of my male friends have told me that when a man is jealous that it is because he is projecting his character flaw and flair for infidelity onto his girlfriend/wife. Jealous people think other people are capable of cheating because it is in their nature to cheat so they think everyone is like that.

Emotionally distant

Marty's on the road (doing stand up) so we have been talking while he is traveling. I asked him how on earth I could pick someone who is emotionally distant to date. Out of all the people who contacted me on OKCupid I went out with someone who lived four hours away and who was not available emotionally. I asked Marty if he thinks I did it subconsciously  and I don't realize it. He said he thinks a lot of women pick some guy who looks good on paper but then when they start dating the guy he really isn't what they wanted after all. Because women are independent and take care of themselves for the most part a guy seems like a good choice but then when it gets down to it the guy isn't right for them. I don't know if that's what it is. I know that the last guy I dated wasn't willing to put forth any effort. We had opposite personalities. I expect everything to be a lot of hard work and when it isn't I am overjoyed. He expected everything to be easy and when it took some work he was snippy and hateful due to frustration. Though Marty and I talked about my choices of men and why I always pick someone who is not emotionally available to me we didn't really figure anything out. But I wonder why when a perfectly nice man who is a good catch makes his intentions toward me known I back away. It makes me think I am the one who is emotionally unavailable which is scary. I have made major commitments to other people but they're familial and friendship relationships. I told Marty I wouldn't be opposed to being with someone if he was my best friend but I haven't found that person. Usually, it's one or the other, I'm either attracted the person and have chemistry or I am friends with person. It seems like dating is a lot of hard work. Right now, I don't feel like I have interest or energy to engage in it. And for the last year, I have been more interested in my friendships and the quality of life enjoyed when friendships blossom. My friendships are so much more important to me than dating someone, especially if the man is not sincere and is genuinely interested in a long term loving relationship with me not just trying to hook up.

Maybe this explains my date from OKCupid (it was just an experiment)

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/we-experiment-on-human-beings/